Thursday, August 2, 2012


Yes, I've been noticeably absent.  My families world has been tossed upside-down.  On June 8th I received a very dreaded phone call, one that we can all agree nobody saw coming and was just unimaginable.  It was the last week of preschool for the kids and we were so ready to get the summer started.  My Mother, quietly explained that Kimberly was in the hospital and that she was very sick and they were suspecting Meningitis.  Kimberly is my very smart, beautiful, thoughtful and amazing little 17 year old cousin.  A somber phone call it was but there was optimism! That night I was on my say to visit her.  Still looking beautiful, Kim was visibly battling something serious but everyone was staying positive.  Fast forward 1 week later, a grim outcome.  The effects from the Meningitis bacteria which invaded her poor little body deemed too much and at that point she was on life support and the decision had been made to remove her..........I paused there because I know it must have taken your breathe away as it did ours.  Just one week after visiting with her I was there once again to say my goodbyes.  Not realizing until that moment how cherished that last time was.  So this blog post is two-fold; in tribute to her wonderful memory and to let you know that Meningitis can affect anyone. There are 5 strains of this terrible disease and only 3 are prevented by vaccination, 2 are not.  Our family would appreciate any donation made in honor of Kimberly Coffey in hopes that her tragedy could prevent others.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Mary J. Blige - No More Drama

So tired, tired of this drama

No more, no more
I wanna be free
I'm so tired, so tired

Broken heart again
Another lesson learn
Better know your friends
Or else you will get burned
Gotta count on me
Cause I can guarantee
That I'll be fine

No more pain (no more pain)
No more pain (no more pain)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
No one's gonna make me hurt again

Why'd I play the fool
Go through ups and downs
Knowing all the time
You wouldn't be around
Or maybe I like the stress
Cause I was young and restless
But that was long ago
I don't wanna cry no more

No more pain (no more pain)
No more game (no more game messin with my mind)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
Nooone's gonna make me hurt again
No more tears (no more tears, I'm tired of cryin everynight)
No more fears (no more fears, I really don't wanna cry)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
I don't ever wanna hurt again
Wanna speak my mind, wanna speak my mind

Uh, it feel so good
When you let go
Of all the drama in your life
Now you're free from all the pain
Free from all the game
Free from all the stress
So find your happiness
I don't know
Only God knows where the story ends for me
But I know where the story begins
It's up to us to choose
Whether we win or loose
And I choose to win

No more pain (no more pain)
No more game (tired of your playin' game with my mind)
No drama (no more drama in my life)
No more, no more, No more, no more
No more tears (no more tears, no more cryin every night)
No more fears (no more waking be up in the morning)
No drama, no more in my life 

No more drama, no more drama
No more drama, no more drama
No more drama in my life
So tired, tired of this drama

Epilogue (Lesson learned) - The good, the bad and the ugly!

"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury."
- Marcus Aurelius      

The good, the bad and the ugly?

That is the saying right?  So I think you can gather from what I tend to write, I'm a pretty down to earth; hard-working; trustworthy; kind person - - right??  I may be biased, but yes I am.  What I have come to realize, unfortunately, is that no matter how close you stay on the straight and narrow in life; there is always someone or something that will test your resolve and faith if you will.  I will take you on a (shortened) journey of why I am posting this.

"The story of a young couple who worked very hard and saved every penny they had to buy their first home.  How excited they were; how lucky they felt to have been able to accomplish this goal at such a young age.  Paper after paper, signature after signature; it was finally theirs!  They began their new life, happy and excited about the future.  Making new friends around the neighborhood seemed so easy.  Forward two years later; a lovely daughter is born!  Eighteen months later a son!  How can they be so blessed they thought, a wonderful home and two perfect children; a cat; a dog - an American dream."

Now if I were to stop there, you would say to yourself, wow what a beautiful story.  Of course this timeline did not come without its trials and tribulations (as anyone's else's story).  My point is to show you the good and to now show some of the bad.  The ups and downs of life, if you will (hint hint this story is about my family and I). About two months ago, April 9th to exact, I get a knock at the door.  I open the door and I see before me a Town Inspector with a clip-board.  He pulls out a small 5x7 piece of paper stating "notice of complaint." Confused at this point, I listen closely as he began to list a number of things that we had in our home and on our property that may or may not have the proper permits and contracting approval from the town.  Even more confused, but confident, I blurt out "oh those were existing when we purchased the home." Cue in the dramatic music!  "Well mam, that just means you inherited the issues......"  I am not sure how long I stood there in complete silence and disbelief but the man obviously noticed as he said "Mam, are you alright?" Was I alright?  I kept repeating it in my head for a moment.  Blurting out the obvious; "NO I AM NOT ALRIGHT!"  By this time dollar signs were actually ringing in my head.  I politely said, "um okay so what does this mean, do you just drive past and randomly pick homes out for inspection?" Now here is the "bad and the ugly" part.  In his words "Mam, these complaints were called in by someone.  The town does not look into violations unless someone alerts them.  Someone who has been in your home or knows your home called these in." Who could it have been; who did we anger somehow; why would someone do this to us? As quickly as he was there he was gone as I stood trembling and dialing the number to my husband at work.  His reaction was a bit more angry, as you could probably imagine.  Thus started our journey to comply with the town.  Calls to the lawyer, calls to town officials and calls to adjusters.  Only to find out this was just something we had to take care of.  Also finding out that the cost of filing would be tripled because they were existing.  All the while, wondering who would do this, how will we pay for this??  We are good people, we work hard, upkeep our property, seemingly popular with neighbors, WHO? In the back of my mind, I knew.  Our one neighbor, the next door neighbor to be exact! But I had no proof.  How can I go ahead and accuse someone.  I couldn't, I wouldn't.  I was not raised that way.  Day after day, I would cry and wonder why this was happening.

We did eventually find out that it was that next door neighbor.  From that point on I decided to rise above it and just do what we had to do.  Somehow it would work out. We had also found out that she had done some other not-so-nice things to another neighbor as well so we were not alone.  Anger, hurt and revenge were at the forefront of my mind.  I began to reflect on this person.  I thought of how "ugly" a person she must be to do this to someone.  Then I thought that this "ugly" person must be so lonely and miserable to do things like this.  Then I began to think about my life, my home, my family and my friends and how lucky I really am.  We are healthy, we have a beautiful home and have the most amazing people in our lives.

The point of my story is simple - there are going to be bumps in the road.  Our patience and our faith and how we handle them will always be tested.  It is not in me to retaliate, it would only bring me down to their level.  The strength of a person is measured by their reactions to negative situations.  If I were to fight back, I would be no better then her.  Instead, I go on, I go outside with my children and laugh and play, I go and plant new flowers in my garden without feeling defeated.

I dedicate this blog post to my parents for raising me to accept things that I cannot change and to rise above them, even in the worst of situations. Thank you A & K!!

When I do good, I feel good.  When I do bad, I feel bad.  That's my religion.  ~Abraham Lincoln

Thursday, May 17, 2012

"I was lost but now I'm found"

"I was lost and found
I had run around
I was lost but now I'm found"
-Judas Priest

You may wonder why I chose to start with that piece of lyric from a song by Judas Priest??!! Well....I have been gone but now I'm back.  I took some time off to be with family and work on myself and my health.

It all began back in November when I started to get sick just about every few days.  After about a month of it, I decided enough was enough and it was time to get checked out.  I know many of you can relate as Mothers when I say, we never really put ourselves first!  This time I had no choice.  I figured if I'm not well how can I be the best Wife, Mother and Virtual Assistant I can be?!  Long story short; my platelet levels were extremely high  and I found out I have been extremely anemic, probably my entire life - never knew!! The good news is that that is something that is treatable!! So since then I have been taking care of myself and going to my follow appointments so I can stay on track!

So now I'm back, I recognized a problem and I took the steps necessary to be healthy which should always be #1 no matter what profession you do in life; stay at home Mom, corporate mogul or a work at home Mom.  We all tend to want to be superwoman but I found it is okay to admit that I am not.  By taking care of myself I am now able to successfully fill my roles which I love so dearly.  I am proud to say I am a HEALTHY; Wife, Mother of 2 and Virtual Assistant!!

So that is my sch-peal, I hope you enjoyed a little of my journey for the past few months - more to come!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

My mantra for the day :)

As a "work at home" Mother - this is something I must repeat to myself on a pretty regular basis. This kind of life and work can take a lot out of you and there are many things that can bring you down. The importance of recognizing the importance in what we are doing is key!

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The new and improved!

After a brief, but slightly longer than expected, time away from blogging - I am back! This past year has been filled (in short) with a lot of fun and laughs, stress, blessings and professional expansion.

The fun part: well that's easy as it can be quite entertaining having two toddlers running around. My daughter is almost 4 years old and my son turned 2 years old over the summer. The year was filled with trips to the beach, some boating, yummy BBQ, swimming and a trip to the zoo. I am quite blessed so I accept the chaos with love.

The stress: that can sometimes coincide with the two crazy toddlers, ha-ha. This seems to result from a number of factors. The stress of owning a home in a very expensive state (New York) in our struggling economy is extremely difficult. The stress of earning enough income to help provide for my family and our home. The stresses of life cannot be avoided but they make us stronger.

Professional expansion: I started my journey looking for part time work so I can contribute but still be able to raise my little girl. I "literally" stumbled on an ad for Virtual Assisting. "What was this? Is this for real? It must be a scam, it is too good to be true." I said this to myself over and over. That was almost four years ago! I started from the ground up with a virtual staffing agency providing virtual assistance for real estate agents, motivational coaches and retail providers. I am now proud to say that my experience has grown to the point where I can stand on my own and market and assist my very own clients. I still have loyalty to that company but in the essence of growth I "expanded" my business. Yes that's right, I said business. I work out of my home office with clients residing all across the country. I love what I do and I'm excited to share my experiences with you all.

Well, this was a brief overview of my experience this past year and an insight to what's to come with this blog. I will discuss my experience as a business owner and virtual assistant and offer advice and tips on the latest treads in the industry and social media marketing. Thanks for reading!